The Blame Game

Whenever someone new finds out you have a child with autism, several things can happen:

1. Pity in the form of "Oh, you poor woman. How do you do it? That must be so hard. etc, etc"
Ok, Moms with autistic kids don't want pity. We love our kids, we are proud of our kids. Being a parent is HARD. Being a parent of a child with autism is HARDER. But, they are our kids. They are not a tragedy - they are people.

2. Blame in the form of "Did you vaccinate him too soon? Did you eat tuna? Did you give him too much sugar? Did you hold him too much? Did you not hold him enough? etc, etc, etc" Come on people. STOP!!!! More than anything else - there is no known cause of autism. There is no blame. Just stop. Just listen. Just support. Enough with the blame!!!!

Don't surprise him

When will we learn?? We took the little man to Water Fire in Providence. We had so much fun there. Lots of people, lots of noise - and still, he had fun, and so did we. Then he wanted to go get ice cream. It was a warm night, so we said OK. But it was late, so we told him that he couldn't have "snack time" at home - that this would count as snack time. He had a fit and said he didn't expect that and it wasn't fair, because we didn't warn him. I had to admit - he was right. We wound up compromising on a shorter snack time. When will we learn?!?!?! Let him know first - come on - how hard is that?!?!

Peace out.

Smooth Roads

Well, we seem to be past the bump. He is still not wanting to write at all - he HATES to write. It is so hard for him. And if he can't do something perfectly, he'd rather not do it at all. We are trying to let him know that it doesn't have to be perfect, but I don't think he's buying it at all. OK, if anyone is reading this - any ideas on getting an Aspie to write? I hate to make him do things he hates, but it's school. What can we do?? They will let him use a keyboard, but he's not really interested in that, either.

We just keep on keeping on...

Peace out.