Whenever someone new finds out you have a child with autism, several things can happen:
1. Pity in the form of "Oh, you poor woman. How do you do it? That must be so hard. etc, etc"
Ok, Moms with autistic kids don't want pity. We love our kids, we are proud of our kids. Being a parent is HARD. Being a parent of a child with autism is HARDER. But, they are our kids. They are not a tragedy - they are people.
2. Blame in the form of "Did you vaccinate him too soon? Did you eat tuna? Did you give him too much sugar? Did you hold him too much? Did you not hold him enough? etc, etc, etc" Come on people. STOP!!!! More than anything else - there is no known cause of autism. There is no blame. Just stop. Just listen. Just support. Enough with the blame!!!!